Clipboard with a piece of paper reading ‘open projects’ ready for a list, with a pen and a laptop on a desk
Clipboard with a piece of paper reading ‘open projects’ ready for a list, with a pen and a laptop on a desk
Photo by Markus Winkler on Unsplash

Half the time, I can’t find my own stories on this platform, so how are you lovely people supposed to find them?

So have an index!

I’ve arranged it by topic — for now, at least. I’ll try to keep it as updated as possible!

The Story of Me and the UK Amazon Associate Programme

Writing

Blogging and Social Media

Creativity

Poetry


‘The Writer Diaries — My Own Plot Twists Surprise Me’ written in a handwriting-style font, with a picture of a hand holding a pencil finishing off the last word
‘The Writer Diaries — My Own Plot Twists Surprise Me’ written in a handwriting-style font, with a picture of a hand holding a pencil finishing off the last word
Image: author’s own, made with Canva; ‘The Writer Diaries’ was part of the original title of this post on my personal blog, Dora Reads

“Holy sh**!”

These are the words I’ve just written on paper. Hand-written, in ballpoint pen, in my multi-coloured Crayola notebook (all the cool kids have them! 😉😎)

They’re words I’ve given to one of the characters from my Work in Progress (WIP), Dan, as he realises something ground-breaking that makes everyone look at the situation entirely differently.

…It’s a sentiment I fully endorse, because I have no clue where this plot twist came from.

And, with wide eyes, my only statement at this moment can only be an echoed, ‘Holy sh**.’

(Only I can’t swear because my mother, so it was more like ‘Holy…’ and then trailing off.)

Because it makes sense. The plot twist makes sense.

And I didn’t see it coming.

Sure, there are a few pre-written sections which no longer fit with this development, but due to the…


Superhero media is a hazardous place to be a father…

5 Super Dads (And 5 Who Aren’t So Super)
5 Super Dads (And 5 Who Aren’t So Super)
Image: author’s own, made with Canva

…Either you or your kid keeps getting kidnapped and you have to save each other…

…someone changes the timeline and suddenly you’ve accidentally poofed your child out of existence…

…your kids get ret-conned for film license purposes so that they’re no longer your kids…

…they turn out to be super-villains even though you thought they were dead…

It ain’t easy!

(This post may have some mild SPOILERS for various superhero-y dealies.)

Still, some father-figures manage to be super both in and out of costume, and here’s five:

1. Phil Coulson (MCU)


Disney+’s Loki, episode 1, was cool -

(don’t worry this is a SPOILER-free zone)

— like the first episode of The Falcon and The Winter Soldier (TFATWS,) it showed a lot of promise.

Fingers crossed, it delivers!

(Yes, I am an episode behind, so no SPOILERS please.)

And Loki was confirmed as Gender-Fluid!

(No, that’s not a SPOILER, because Queer identities are not SPOILERS, and Loki has been all kinds of Queer in the comics for a long time — this is the correction of some b*llsh** Cis/Straight-washing. #NowYaKnow)

Well, kinda confirmed as Gender-Fluid. It was an easter egg. In Loki’s file at the Time Variants Authority (TVA) if you look really close, it says ‘Sex — Fluid’.

Hopefully we’ll get more explicit acknowledgement of this — because Tom Hiddleston seems like…


Last December, I got kicked off the UK Amazon Associates Programme.

(Warning: this post briefly references and details mental health problems (Depression/Anxiety))

I am so not happy.

I’ve tried pretty much everything to sort this out — but Amazon UK don’t seem to care.

So I will do what I do in situations like this — I will put it all out there on the table, in it’s full stalling-tactics, arbitrary, frustrating glory.

(This is a long one — feel free to bookmark it and come back, but I would really, really, appreciate you reading this. 💖)

‘What Happened Between Me and the UK Amazon Associates Programme: The Entire Story’ against a cardboard background
‘What Happened Between Me and the UK Amazon Associates Programme: The Entire Story’ against a cardboard background
Image: Author’s own, made with Canva

My darling dearest nerdlets, you don’t get rid of me that easy.

I don’t just ‘leave it,’ not when I know I did nothing wrong.

I will keep going, again and…


When I was very, very, small, someone I love — an adult — said something that stuck a tiny dagger into my heart.

(Warning: this post discusses several instances of Homophobia, and the feelings caused.)

I use the term Homophobia here as a catch-all for all types of bigotry against LGBTQ+ people, including general Queerphobia, and Transphobia.

‘Casual Homophobia: A Thousand Cuts’ with rainbow stripes down the left-hand side
‘Casual Homophobia: A Thousand Cuts’ with rainbow stripes down the left-hand side
Image: author’s own, made with Canva

The adult said to me, a small child, “…it shows being Gay as something natural. Which it’s not.”

And a teeny-tiny voice in my small child brain said, ‘But what about me?’ and then I stamped it down very, very, hard.

Partly because I didn’t know what I meant. What about me? What was I?

Well, if straight was the natural… then I was straight? Right?

Not long ago I recounted this occurrence to that same person (who is a lot more accepting and supportive these days)… and they couldn’t remember it.

This big thing in my life — in my heart — was nothing to them. Not worth remembering.


Practice makes perfect. Well… it doesn’t. But it makes it better than it was when you started!

Unfortunately, when it comes to creative stuff — the process is slow.

Some people, somewhere, are the lucky one in a billion who can create a masterpiece with no practice or preamble. (Lucky so-and-sos.)

swirly rainbow-coloured smoke, because why not?
swirly rainbow-coloured smoke, because why not?
Image: via Pixabay

Most of us, though?

Nope. No such luck.

We have to put the goddamn work in!

That means that the level of recognition we receive for our achievements is also slow in coming — which is probably not a bad thing.

We grow and evolve as people, allowing our art or whatever to grow and evolve with us.

(It also means that of my 1300+ blogposts on my personal blog, Dora Reads, relatively few people have read the early ones. Which is good because…they weren’t!)

You wouldn’t want a global audience to see/hear your school concert, would you?

Nope. That would be uber-embarrassing. (For most of us —…


A few years ago, I cut ties to someone in the blogging world who I thought was pretty cool; they turned out not to be.

Pursed lips painted in a rainbow pattern
Pursed lips painted in a rainbow pattern
Image: via Pixabay

(Warning: this post contains discussions of homophobia (inc. general queerphobia) and transphobia, in a religious context (it gets a little… controversial))

Note:

This happened quite a while ago, but on the off-chance you know who I’m talking about in this post, please leave it be. Myself and this person parted somewhat civilly and I don’t want to stir things up.

Also, just to be 100% clear, because internet:

I don’t mean to be offensive to Christianity itself in this post, I don’t consider people like this to be genuine Christians.

There are people who hide behind the shield of Christianity in order to spread hatred and bigotry.

Those people…


…of course, Self-Care is vitally important generally, but you get what I mean.

The weather’s warmed up significantly here in the UK, and when the temperature rises, your Self-Care game needs to be sharp.

‘Summer Self-Care’ with pink stars and an ice-cream cone
‘Summer Self-Care’ with pink stars and an ice-cream cone
Graphic: author’s own, made with Canva; ice-cream cone image via Pixabay

Disclaimer time!:

I’m not a mental health, psychology, or medical professional — I’m a Welsh girl with a blog.

People with mental health problems — hi! — may find ourselves affected by the heat, and we and people with other disabilities need to be especially careful.

Just as an example: yours truly has increased Anxiety problems in the heat. I also get increased Depression problems when I’m hot for a long time, mainly because the uncomfortableness just brings my mood down generally.

People can also get a form of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) that’s commonly known as the Summer Blues, or Summer Depression.

Of course, taking care of yourself in the heat is important regardless of what disabilities you do or do not have.

I’m just pointing out that it’s especially important for those of us who may be affected the most.

Let’s take a look at 3 basic but important things you can do to take care of yourself in the heat:

1. Hydration

This is THE most important one…

Cee Arr

International woman of mystery (able to confuse people in several countries) writer, blogger @ dorareads.co.uk , Queer, bookish rebel, Welsh, She/Her

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