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Warning: this post contains discussions of homophobia and f**k-ups by well-meaning allocishet people.
Something I’ve noticed since I came out a few years ago is that well-meaning Allocishet* people put their ever-loving feet in it on a pretty regular basis.
This isn’t out of malice — it’s more like a failure to listen and understand.
*Allocishet = Allosexual, Cisgendered, Heterosexual. Basically, non-LGBTQ+.
Allosexual means feels sexual attraction (i.e. not Asexual or Asexual-spectrum,) Cisgendered means identifies as your birth gender, Heterosexual is only attracted to the opposite sex/gender.
So the term Allocishet refers to people who aren’t in any way covered by the umbrella of Queer or LGBTQ+.
The thing is — I don’t know what to do when they mess up.
Because I know they’re trying, and I really appreciate that, but I still would like to slam my head repeatedly against the nearest wall or desk every time they say something offensive or just plain awkward within my earshot.
(And no, I’m not going to say who these people are or how I know them, because I love my family and/or friends —…