What you're talking about is respectability politics, whereby LGBTQ+ people (or other marginalised groups, including Black people of course,) are only respected if we act the way that the majority wants us to act - i.e. in a way that makes AlloCisHet (non-LGBTQ+) people comfortable. We are not here to make you comfortable. We are here to exist freely.

And, actually, Lil Nas X's videos aren't made with the straight gaze in mind. Try seeing them through the eyes of Queer people who have been taught they have to act a certain way to be accepted - to be safe, even. They are so powerful, honestly.

Lil Nas X is unapologetically himself, I'm sorry if that makes your masculinity a little brittle.

The Montero video is a response to respectability politics, to every time we've been told not to be one of 'those' Gays, to every time someone's said we're going to hell. The same social constructs that uphold white supremacy also persecute and villify Queer people.

(And if you have to say 'I have no problem with anyone within the LGBTQ community... *But*...' it's not a great start.)

It's notable that people don't mention the Sun Goes Down video when they're tearing Lil Nas down. Sun Goes Down is Queer pain as told by us, for us - not for AlloCisHet entertainment and exploitation, but for Queer solidarity.

Sorry this comment is so long, but this is important - LGBTQ+ people are just trying to be ourselves. Outside. In society. Not just behind closed doors.